Self-criticism Could be Draining Your Confidence
Introspection can help us learn about ourselves and boost confidence. It can help us see that we are not perfect and give us the right balance of doing what is right and doing whatever we want, no matter the circumstance. People who aren’t introspective often blame others for all problems, even when it’s their fault.
However, you can overdo it to the point where you are knocking yourself. When you get to this point, you can be jeopardizing your confidence. You need to find the right balance of learning about yourself and keeping up your self-esteem.
Evaluate
Always evaluate every situation you find yourself involved with. Don’t make assumptions as they can be wrong, without the right information. You want to make sure that you have covered all the basis before making any determinations. You want to eliminate any possibility that you are the cause of any negative situations. If you are, own up to it and try to make the situation right.
Speak Up!
But, don’t just take the blame for everything. If you discover that you are not the cause, then speak up and let that be known. Self-critical people will tend to blame themselves automatically. This can bring down your spirits over time. It’s okay to help others when they are the responsible party. When you do this, they will be more willing to help you when you are at fault.
Pick Your Battles
It’s important to pick your battles, too. If you find something minor that came up, you may want to let it go. Sometimes, it can even be worth taking the fall for these minor situations. It won’t have much impact, and by doing this, you can help everyone involved to move forward.
If you take the fall for major things, however, you are setting up to make the situation worse. The person who is truly responsible will continue to act in a detrimental way because you let them get away with it. If you are taking the blame for everything, it’s time to stop. It’s not helping, and you may not be able to reverse what people believe about you. Many people do this to keep the peace, but in the end, it’s not good for anyone. Responsible parties need to take responsibility, and the only way that will happen is to stand up to the culprits. By doing so, you will gain more confidence and make each of these situations right.
