5 Common Mistakes Using the Law of Attraction

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As with any skill, mastering the law of attraction takes time, effort, and devotion. There are a multiple factors which can cause the law to behave in ways which you may not have expected. Nearly all relate to the user’s ability to follow the guidelines required to find success with this new tool. Fortunately, the mistakes are as universal as the law itself, and therefore very easy to identify and correct. Here are the top 5 most common mistakes made.

1. Belief That Positive Thinking is All You Need

Positive thinking occurs only on the conscious level. Since the law of attraction works on the subconscious level, it’s simply not enough to have a positive though. It is necessary for belief to enter the subconscious as well.

The mind is always operating on two levels, the subconscious and the conscious. The conscious mind is being given hundreds of bits of information at any given time from all five senses. This is an incredible amount of information to process, even for such an advanced tool as the human brain. The mind could not function properly if it had to deal with all of that information all of the time.

Instead, the mind developed the subconscious mind. It serves as a filter to review the information sent by the senses and retains anything deemed important. Anything that is not deemed important is stored in the subconscious. It is the subconscious which will retain this information.  It acts as the guardian of repressed memories until such time as those memories are needed again.

A theory has long been held that the subconscious has a direct effect on the actions and beliefs of the conscious mind. If the conscious mind is attempting to think positive thoughts while the subconscious retains a negative energy, the two will cancel each other out and the desired effect will not be achieved.

2. Being Impatient

 The universe works at its own speed; remember, every action carries with it an equal and opposite reaction. It is essential that the other environmental conditions be right in order for an event to occur just as it should. This means that the law of attraction may take weeks, months or even years to affect a fruitful reaction to the desires of a single individual. People today are spoiled; they want what they want and they want it now. A new theory that does not produce instant results is not going to be received with much enthusiasm.

In addition to that, disbelieving in the law of attraction because it does not meet your established timetables is a direct violation of the guidelines required to see positive results. You were merely testing the law in order to see if it will produce results. If you were confident in its ability to create the desired results you would be content to sit and wait. You should believe that what you want most will come to you in time. The law never says WHEN your goals will be reached. It tells you that they WILL be reached.

Lack of confidence will derail the entire process. It signals that somewhere in your being is a small kernel of negative energy. This energy is sufficient to throw a monkey wrench into the whole process of positive attraction. Remember, if you are vibrating negative energy you will attract negative energy back onto yourself.

3. Setting the How and When

 Let the universe work! It is possible to become so focused on what you think is going to happen that you manage to totally miss the event when it occurs if it does not occur in precisely the manner you pictured it would. I think of the movie Dirty Love in which a “psychic” tells Jenny McCartney’s character that her new man is a “white pony!” What she fails to realize is that her true love has been there the entire time. At the end, she discovers the answer to the cryptic message. I won’t ruin it!

As previously stated, the universe will choose its own time and place for all things to occur. These events may take place through rather unusual means. By predetermining exactly how you will receive the rewards which you are seeking, you are taking away the choice from the hands of nature, which direct the ebb and flow of the energies of life, and setting yourself up for a hard fall.

By taking the ability to choose upon yourself you are essentially saying that you do not have faith in the ability of the law of attraction to affect the desired results in time. Again, by setting your own timeline for events to occur you will eventually come to disbelieve in the law of attraction. After all, it didn’t do what it was supposed to, did it? This will cause your subconscious to radiate the negative energy which will drive the positive energy away.

4. Letting Emotions be Ruled by Evidence

In order to reap the full benefits of the law of attraction you need to believe that what you see now is a result of what you have been attracting to this point. It is essential that you realize that what has occurred in your life to this date and what will happen moving forward on is determined by you. Whatever successes or failures you have experienced have resulted from energy that your mind has released out into the universe.

It is easy to look at life events and think, “I certainly didn’t want that to happen. The law of attraction must be untrue because I would never wish for something so awful!” What you need to realize is that your conscious wishes don’t usually overrule your subconscious projections.

5. Letting Limiting Beliefs Thrive

 There are many occasions in which people fall into a self-defeating cycle because they are unable to control the thoughts and attitudes of their subconscious. A common argument against the law of attraction is, “Why is there so much suffering in the world if people have the ability to determine the events of their life?” No, these people have not chosen a life of starvation and servitude. However, due to their history, many of them do not truly believe that they have any choice.

This disbelief in their ability to change their circumstances because “it’s the way it’s always been” means that they will continue to live this way. Their subconscious continues to project that disbelief and negative energy out into the universe. This draws back negative energy which will cause them to continue to live in this self-destructive cycle of events.

It is those who have dared to dream, and believe in the possibilities presented by these dreams, who have affected the greatest changes in the world. Do you think that if the colonists had really believed that they would never be free of the British they would have been able to win the revolutionary war? If Henry Ford had not truly believed that man could ride in a car, do you think that the Model T could have been invented? If women really believed that they were destined to live the rest of their lives under the thumb of their fathers and husbands, with no say in the lives they would leave, that women’s liberation would have occurred?

Remove the Beliefs

The removal of limiting beliefs is vital to the ability of the law of attraction to work as intended. Do you truly feel that the law of attraction is not working for you? If so, take a moment to consider the things that you are wishing for. Do you truly believe that these events can take place, or are you merely making idle wishes? Do you secretly believe that you have a “one-in-a-million” chance of things actually taking place?

100% confidence is needed to project the vibes needed to attract what you want. You must also recognize that events leading you here were necessary. Every step has brought you to exactly where you need to be.

Now that you can identify these five mistakes, you can begin to take steps to avoid and/or correct them. This won’t happen overnight. However, with daily practice and focus, you can train both your conscious and subconscious minds to work in tandem to create the magnetism needed to make your dreams a reality!

Stephen Meadows

Stephen Meadows has been in the real estate industry since 2001 and has worked with hundreds of brokerages and thousands of agents all over the country. His passion for helping people succeed is apparent in all he does. Stephen has written 6 books and has published 15, 5 of which were Amazon Best Sellers.